Does this sound familiar in your household? It reminds me of when I was growing up with four siblings. Yes, we did argue. If someone did something wrong, we would often hear, “Who me? I didn’t do it, she did!”

The same can be true of clutter in your household. “It is his mess, not mine.” or “She said she would clean it up, but she didn’t.”

On many levels, this back-and-forth diatribe could take place in just about any home in America with or without kids!

  • Some people see it. Some don’t.
  • Some are hypersensitive to clutter, while others are completely desensitized to it.

But the fact remains, that clutter exists and clutter impacts our lives, our relationships, and our well-being in so many ways: 

  • Clutter can make you feel stressed, overwhelmed, and agitated.
  • Clutter can impact our ability to rest and relax in our own homes. It even impacts our sleep patterns.
  • Clutter can make you late especially when you’re trying to find the keys on your way out the door.
  • Clutter can even influence your eating and snacking habits.

The reality is that we all live with some level of clutter on a day-to-day basis, whether you live alone, as a couple, or as a family with lots of kids.

When there are messes all around, when you can’t seem to locate what you need when you want it, and when your “to-do list” seems that it will never get done, it just might be time to stop blaming each other and learn how to identify your clutter blind spots.

Then, together, develop ways that you can maintain an organized, restful, and peaceful home.

5 Steps to Conquer Clutter and Get Your Home Back

1.   Walk into your home for the first time.

Room by room, identify clutter, and clutter hotspots.

2.   Take pictures of each of those areas as you see them on a daily basis.

Feel the frustration, overwhelm, upset, and even guilt.

3.   Walk into your home a second time.

Imagine those same areas without clutter. Imagine how peaceful and restful your home would be. Imagine what your life would be like if you figured out how to live without clutter.

4.   Have your spouse and children each do the same exercise independently of each other, then compare notes.

How did it make them feel before and after clutter?

Do they now see the clutter they weren’t seeing before?

5.   Start small.

Pick one area that bothers each of you the most. Involve your family have them pick their own area.

6.   Together, create a written plan with daily habits for how you can help have your home be clutter-free. 

  • No more piles of clothes on the floor.
  • No more dirty dishes in the sink.
  • No more toys lying on the floor.

A community effort can make this possible.

There’s no longer a need to blame each other when each takes responsibility and ownership of their own things.

Let me know how this goes!

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